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BE: Introvert’s Guide to End of Summer Parties

Summer is coming to an end, and with that comes some end-of-summer bashes. Saying “see you later” to the summer can include barbeques, pool parties, and beach days with friends, but if you consider yourself more introverted, end of summer celebrations might sound more like being forced to eat glass or biting into a raw onion rather than an opportunity to have an enjoyable time.

You might have heard the terms “introvert” and “extrovert”, but what does that actually mean? At their core, these words describe how people prefer to re-charge. Introverts prefer alone time to decompress, while extroverts get their energy from others. Not everyone is evenly divided into one or the other, and people often switch teams depending on situation or as they grow older. People are most likely a mix of both, but if you feel more introverted than extroverted, large social gatherings can feel more like a chore than an adventure.

While some may enjoy a night alone, ordering sushi, and watching a favorite movie; research shows that balancing these personal nights with social time might be beneficial to your health. Both introverts and extroverts, regardless of how they re-charge, can feel lonely. If you do experience feelings of loneliness, you are not alone. Studies have linked loneliness to feelings of depression and higher mortality rates, so creating a connection with someone you meet at a random party might be more of a bonus than you originally thought.

So if you’ve said yes to a party, go ahead and give yourself a pat on the back. If you feel a bit overwhelmed at the thought of going to a social gathering, try using some of the following self-preservation techniques to successfully show up to and enjoy a party, and leaving without feeling completely drained.

Self-Preservation Techniques:

  • 1. Treat yourself to some alone time before you head out. Take some time for yourself to clear your mind and prepare for your evening. Maybe take your furry friend for a walk, or read a book to nourish yourself before your evening of excitement.

  • 2. Phone a friend. Going to a party with someone you know is always easier than going at it alone. If you can, bring someone you trust, someone slightly more extroverted than you, and allow them to open up different conversations that you can also be apart of.

  • 3. Let’s give them something to talk about. If speaking to people you don’t know gives you anxiety, it might help for you to think about some things to talk about. And remember, people LOVE talking about themselves, and as an introvert, you’re the best listener—ask questions and sit back and watch an organic conversation unfold.

  • 4. Pick and choose what you actually need to go to. Exercise your power to say no—you certainly do not need to be in attendance for a friend of a friend’s great aunt’s dog’s birthday party. Actually, you don’t even have to be in attendance for a friend of a friend’s birthday party. Save your energy for events that have to do with people you care about.

So get out there, make a connection, and better your health in the process!